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We’ll see you soon Moo and Nitro. As our voyage to NZ approaches, weather window permitting, the hardest thing I have had to do so far is to say to Moo and Nitro: ‘Have fun and be good for Jo and Tim Tim and Jo Hayter. Monday, I handed over Moo and Nitro to Jo and Tim for what is most likely going to be around a year. I picked them up and placed them on their cushions in Jo and Tim’s car, gave them both a pat and a smile, turned around and walked to my car as if it was normal. Thank God for Bill Fuller who came with me just in case I was a blubbering idiot, crying. Marty (Martin Lloyd) was working.

Deep sigh as I write this.

The last weekend with them was beautiful. Lots of cuddles and activities. They got washed and trimmed. This is not their favourite activity, however I wanted them looking their best for Jo and Tim. Hand over day was Monday. Sunday evening my heart was aching.

I spent time in the cockpit with Nitro on my chest and Moo curled up under my legs. We stayed like this for ages. There was a dull pain in my chest that was overwhelming.

We rescued these two forlorn dogs 5 years ago. I say rescued as they were neglected. Their nails were long, curled and growing into their pads and their breath was rotten. Moo Moo’s gums were bleeding. They were living with a family. It was clear the mother loved them, however somewhere along the way their maintenance care was left behind. As we drove away with the two scallywags in the car, we had to wind the windows down as their breath was so bad we were gagging, and so we continued on the motorway at 100 km an hour with the windows down.

After a check-up with the vet and a second visit to sort out their teeth, and with 17 extractions between the two of them, we took our two free dogs home, all of sudden much more financially drained than we were two weeks prior.

Our lives have been enriched ever since.

We were intending to fly them to NZ after we arrived by boat, however our plans have changed as Marty has a contract in the Philippines, starting in April. While we could take them with us, it is very hard to get them back into the country, simply because Australia and New Zealand have a lot less disease than most of the rest of the world and the quarantine process is extensive.

So it became a question, does Marty go to the Philippines and I stay and look after the fur kids. Last year we were having lunch and discussing this with our friends Jo and Tim who without hesitation offered to look after the dogs. They had just recently moved off their yacht back to land, and now live beside a park on the waters edge. Their connection to the water is strong. They offered to put up a fence and the rest is history.

I had started calling it a co-parenting relationship. I had also said to myself, they (the dogs) are teenagers exploring the world. I am comforted by the fact that Jo and Tim know and love the dogs and the dogs them. This was reinforced on handover day. We pulled up, the dogs jumped out of the car, spotted them and skipped over to them, eagerly wagging their tails and asking to be petted.

It made me smile.

Wind back 16 hours, my heart was wrenching on Sunday night. I started reflecting on a traditional Vanuatuan adaption process. There is the ‘white man’s’ paperwork and then there is the Islander, gifting ceremony. This is where the family gives their child to the new family.

It is not uncommon that a family who can’t have children are asked if they would like one, and a family would conceive a child to give to a childless family. It is an incredible gift.

Some arrangements will see the child grow up, spending time with both families. In others, the birth parents have regular contact and join in on special occasions, and others will have limited contact after the gifting ceremony. I think it is one of the most precious gifts of joy you could ever have.

And so, I have chosen to look at our co-parenting arrangement as giving and sharing the joy of our two cherubs. Bon journey, my wee little travellers. We will see you soon.

Thank you Jo and Tim.

Originally published on Facebook on 02/01/22.

We are coming to the end of our time at East Coast Marina and both of us are becoming restless. What a day it was. Eager to move away from land and to our next discovery and exploration of the Great South East. This time we are not going very far. We are heading up the Brisbane river for ten days.

The end of our time at any marina tends to be a flurry of activity. These last two weeks are no exception. The activities are a mix of client work, boating projects and last-minute catch-ups with new and old friends before moving on.

This week, work was business as usual.

Martin worked four days instead of three days.

Social activities have been plentiful. Wonderful company, conversations, good food and new memories and not enough exercise.

Boating projects are all ago. In theory, we try not to have too many projects on the go at any one time. We also try to put deadlines around each project. This is important for numerous reasons; headspace, bench space and budget. All of this is great in theory.

We currently have two projects underway. Both unplanned. One a leaking shower, the other cockpit cushions.

We have a slow leak in the shower which was progressively getting worse. Thirty-one years of plumbing that is growing fatigued. We don’t need to lose any freshwater due to a leaky shower. At this point, we do not have our water maker.

I will start with the cockpit cushions.

With all the rain, the long cockpit teak bench seats were not getting a chance to dry out. They are covered in water-proof bench seat cushions which have seen better days. These cushions are keeping a layer of moisture between them and the timber bench. As I started to clean them, the seams started to let go. They were already giving way in some areas and continued to do so.

Their time is up.

We purchased new fabric a while ago with the plan to replace them. However, we baulked at purchasing the dri-cell foam as the quote I received from Clark Rubber was $375. Way more than our budget could deal with.

With renewed vigour, I sought to find the required dri-cell foam at an affordable price. I found the manufacturer who had a great one-line website and free cutting service. I ordered the dri-cell form for the bargain price of $120. And got the sheet cut to size for free.

You could argue that with money being tight, how do the cockpit bench cushions sit high on the priority list. It is simple. When we are sailing at night, which we will be doing for 8-10 days when crossing the Ditch, there will be occasions where we will be sleeping in the cockpit. Especially if it is rough. Sleeping directly on a solid teak bench is not going to be comfortable. One of us will be on the helm while the other may be sleeping in the cockpit.

And so, the bench seat cushion project was underway.

I was unpicking the seam of the cushions which was a disgusting job, as the inner lining had a slight smell of long-term damp, making me unconsciously continue to sniff even though I don’t want to. Additionally, I was longing for a shower. Notwithstanding, I continued unpicking the cushion as I wanted to rescue and reuse the back of the cushion’s waterproof mesh with the anti-slip panel.

I was just about finished when Martin Lloyd shouted out ‘Tess!’ in what I believed to be a distressed tone, followed by a string of expletives that you can well image. I was slightly annoyed, as I had about 20 cms of stitching to unpick, and then the disgusting part of this job would have been completed. As I stood up, I gave the two pieces of fabric a tug and they very kindly separated for me.

I went downstairs, feeling grotty, to be greeted by a very pale Martin with blood gushing out of his wrist. It was not spurting, but it was definitely gushing. A million things went through my mind. Arrest the flow was first. I went to the first aid kit and pulled out a bandage to put pressure on the cut and wrap his wrist. There was so much blood. It appeared to be slowing down. I thought I had blood on my hands. I couldn’t wash them as we had the shower pulled apart and the freshwater pump was turned off.

Decision time.

Should I call an ambulance or drive M to the nearest hospital? Our boat is moored 900 meters from the marina security gate. Plus, it was Saturday, the main gate was closed, along with access to our finger. I would have needed to get someone to let the ambulance in. Bloody hell.

So, we decided to walk the 7 minutes to the car keeping pressure on the wound. I watched M closely as he stepped off the boat, looking for any signs of dizziness. So far, it was mostly annoyance that he had cut himself, together with the occasional swear word which, for once, I was grateful to hear.

We made it to the car. M asked which hospital I was going to take him too. I did not know. For once in my life, I did not know where the nearest emergency department was. A quick google maps search followed, and I decided Redlands Hospital it would be. M asked can I take him to his favourite hospital (yes, he has a favourite). I said no, citing that it would take at least an hour.

It was about 20 minutes to get to Redlands Mater. It felt like forever.

We arrived.

I dropped him outside emergency, handed him a mask and went in search of a park and was grateful that they have an open-air free car park just near the emergency department. I parked and strode back to emergency.

He was second in a queue of two. He was behind a young mum with a sick young baby. I knew he would be worried that they would take him through to the treatment room without me. He is terrified of needles. Full on phobia. It is heaps better when I am there.

Admin nurse politely asked, ‘How can we help?’

Martin said nothing and held his wrist up, revealing the blood-soaked bandage. She opened the door, and asked him to come through, take a seat and called for a nurse. I had followed him through the door, she asked me to go back outside to the second window and start to give the other administrator his details. Reluctantly, I did so. I could still see him.

The nurse took off my bandage, looked and very quickly put a new bandage on. It looked a lot more professional than mine.

With the paperwork completed, I was given a visitors sticker and Martin’s arm band and asked to put it on him. We were asked to wait in the waiting room and if blood seeped through the bandage, to let them know immediately. Blood seeped through. M ignored it. He is terrified of needles and he knew that he would not be getting away without stitches.

He was playing candy crush as a distraction. I checked the time. We were going to our friends place for dinner that night to help them celebrate their new home. It was three thirty… plenty of time, I told myself.

We were called in

Dr Ming is a quietly spoken man with a great smile and manner about him. We are taken into a room with two walls stack full of every brace you could imagine, and a sink and bench set up to make plaster of Paris casts.

After introductions the conversation flowed.

Dr Ming: ‘How did you cut yourself?’

Martin: ‘With a sharp knife?’

Dr Ming: ‘What were you doing?’

A necessary question, for two reasons to understand how the cut came about but to also eliminate attempted suicide.

I made a one-word contribution to the conversation, ‘plumbing’.

Martin went on to explain that we live on a yacht, and he was attempting to cut a hose with a very sharp knife and slipped.

Dr Ming went on to inform him that he needed to open the cut up and inspect it to eliminate nicking the artery and tendon damage.

Dr Martin replies, ‘I am sure I have not. Can’t you just stitch it.’

‘Unfortunately, no.’ was the reply. At best, we were going to be late for dinner.

I texted Toni, ‘Hi Toni, we might be a little late. M is in hospital. About to get stitches. We are with the Dr now.’

Toni, ‘Oh what!?! What happened?’

I turned my attention back to the Doc who was starting to get needles and things ready and M was starting to get shaky. I went and gave him a cuddle.

The doctor offered gas.

M said, ‘No I will be fine.’ Ming started injecting the atheistic, a little here, a little there along the line of the cut. M’s body contorted in contradicting directions, while Dr Ming tried hard to put the injection in the ever-moving hand. Again, the doctor offered gas. Again, M said no. So, for an agonising few minutes this battle between the desire to keep his hand still in exchange for the promise of relief the pain killers will bring, fought with his subconscious fear of needles and his body kept contorting.

After what felt like ages Dr Ming said, ‘We are done. I need to let the local start working.’ Followed by, ‘I really think we need to use gas.’ He asked M why he didn’t want gas. M explained that it makes him feel as if he has vertigo. Dr Ming says ‘I really think we need gas. Maybe we will set it up, just in case’. He disappeared. What we both did not realise was that this was only the first round of needles. As they opened the cut, there were going to be more.

I showed M a post Toni had put on Facebook. It was the ingredients laid out for desert that night. It included chocolate and almonds. M said, ‘We will be there in time for desert at least.’ Going to dinner at Toni’s is always a delight.

I returned to my phone to answer Toni’s question, ‘Boat plumbing is what happened. Slashed his wrist accidently of course.’ Followed by, ‘Don’t buy a boat’.

She replied back, ‘Duly noted!’

We waited for Dr Ming to return.

He did, in due course, along with a nurse in tow. They started to set up the gas. They moved the bed around and set up the appropriate monitoring devices. M’s pulse was 90. That was insane. It normally sits between 50 and 60.

They gave him the tube to put in his mouth and hold. He breathed in then opened his lips, letting everything out. His breathing was shallow. He was only breathing oxygen for now. They dialled up the nitrous oxide to a 50/50 mix. Dr Ming started again, putting more injections into the wound deeper down. Again, M’s body involuntarily protested what was happening. This time, accompanied by the gasps M was making between his own breath and the mix he had been letting out of his mouth. He was trying hard. They turned up the nitrous oxide. His body was protesting less.

Still protesting all the same, he asked Dr Ming how much Hokkein or Mandarin he could speak. He said none. Martin said something in Mandarin. Dr Ming laughed, M said something else.

They both laughed.

Ming said, ‘I lived in Singapore for a few years. I did learn a few words’.

The nurse and I had no clue. I asked Dr Ming what he said. He said, ‘He is full of shit and when I laughed, he told me that I’m full of shit’, Sensing my horror, he went on to explain that it is an expression equivalent to saying this (situation) is shit’. The nurse and I now got the joke. Humour aside, his body was still protesting. The Doctor nodded to the nurse and the nitrous percentage was increased. Martin’s protesting ceased ever so briefly, long enough for Dr Ming to finish the examination. The good news, the artery was fine, the tendons were fine. He did cut through a small vein. Now, to wash out the wound.

Martin’s pulse was now 60. He started to become present again. Dr Ming explained what he was doing.

It was time for stitches. Martin contorted, however way less violently by now. The phobic beast was surrendering to the combination of the local and the gas. The stitches were followed by glue and a protective bandage.

I sent Toni a text, ‘M is determined to make it as we saw your post re desert.’ She responded back ‘Ha, ha. Super, no rush, I am behind anyway.’

We got back to the boat, with no shower, no accessible fresh water. At the hospital I managed to wash my hands and arms properly. On the boat I pulled out baby-wipes and did a wipe wash. Got changed, added a dash of perfume and we grabbed the house-warming present and headed out.

I sent Toni a text. ‘Seven minutes away’.

We made it in time for dinner and had a lovely evening. Now, to sort our plumbing issues with M in a brace to immobilise the wrist for two days to give the stitches a chance to heal.

Originally published on Facebook on 12/12/21.

We can easily find ourselves not following our dreams if we allow the “what if?” to hold us back. For me, more important is “why not?”

“Have you ever wondered what would happen if…?” I have heard this phrase so many times in the last four months since we finally made the move to living on our boat. These questions tend to fall into three categories:
• The physical
• Relationship based
• What makes you happy

What follows is an attempt to answer some of these questions as best I can, from my point of view. Although that may change with time, circumstances or context.

The most frequently asked question I get asked is “Do you still/actually/really like living on a boat?”

After surviving the journey of downsizing and going live-aboard it is now almost four months of living on Saboteur in the relatively safe waters of the Marina and surrounding environments, the answer is a resounding, “Yes. I/we still like living on the boat, in fact I/we love it.” My heart sings as I look outside and step off our boat onto the kayak. And I am sure half my friends are sick of another sunrise or sunset photo or video. Thank you for liking my posts anyway…

Morning sunrise
Morning sunrise

The first question is often followed by, “How do you find living in such a small space?” (Assumed compared to a sprawling house). Another common question is, “How do you find living so close to each other?” and also “What if you get annoyed with each other?”

I find those questions are all related, and I will answer them together.

Let’s not lose sight of the fact that I can get annoyed with Martin Lloyd 
in a big house or a small boat… Just saying.

And in fairness, he can get annoyed with me, too!

These questions require an honest look at myself. And a level of self-awareness that at 53 years of age you kind of think/hope you had sorted out for oneself. But under new circumstances and new environments, I am finding I have to look inside a little bit more. It begs the question “should I have been more reflective more often?” The answer is probably. I am being kind on myself. The answer should have been a resounding yes; however I can’t go back, only forward.

My future is on the boat and in a smaller space. I am finding I need to share my frustrations and raise my concerns sooner.

Sometimes they are about something Martin has done, other times it could be something else. When it is something else, and I share it with him it means he is not wandering around the boat wondering if he has done something to annoy me. I am having to be more aware of what I do that may annoy Martin. Hard to believe. But it can happen. That I can be annoying that is. And sometimes we mirror each other. This makes for interesting and often humorous moments.

Being more honest with yourself can be confronting. Being more honest with each other can be even harder.

The “what if” factor… What if I am more honest? It is simple; we develop a greater understanding of each other’s needs. And we move past the annoyed stage much quicker. Another outcome is that I choose to let go of some things much quicker as well. And that feels great. Why waste quality time that I could spend enjoying something else? You know what I mean. The funny thing is I can get annoyed at myself for being annoyed and wasting time being annoyed…

There are also easier and equally as interesting questions,
“What do you miss from living in a house?”

Tea in bed
My alternative to a bedside table

The first words out of my mouth the first time I was asked this was “a bedside table”. Why? I miss having a cup of tea in bed. No biggie I know. My work around option is a small high sided baking dish I use as a stable tray and my “keep mug” (it has a sealed lid) which sits beside me in the bed. And if I knock it over without the lid sealed the remaining early grey is captured in the baking dish. Works well.

That sounds like nothing really. And I think if that is what I miss the most then I am doing alright. OK I missed fresh water when the fresh water pump broke recently. And it took a week to replace due to the challenge of finding the right pump with the right capacity that fitted the confines of the space.

What I truly miss is more associated with relationships and being in a different city. Being further away from family and friends. It is also one of the reasons for our adventures. Not the being away from family and friends bit. It is more about the travel, adventure and meeting new people, people who love being on the water or connected to the water and/or seeking adventures. And then, there are those who grow up on the water and worked on the water. “Salties” as they are called. I doubt we will ever be called “Salties” Our skin is too pale to start with. I’ll settle for sailor girl.

I digress – back to your questions…

What happens if one or both of you and are physically
unable to sail anymore?

We have talked this though a number of times. We discussed a number of circumstances ranging from Martin coming off his bike on a track day. This was less of a discussion and more of me telling him how I would handle the situation if he ended up in a wheelchair again. I would put a bed in the shed (we have a shed at the marina) and he can wheel himself to the amenities block… You may well laugh; laugh I did say that. We also discussed hoisting him on to the boat using a halyard. Also possible…

When we think of possible physical limitations, we have both been inspired by a lady at Newport Marina (where we kept our first boat) who is paraplegic and in a wheelchair. She lives on her own on her boat and sails single handed. While I never saw her sail, I saw her physically pull herself in her wheelchair up the marina ramp, sweat on her brow and determination on her face.

I wondered if she was so used to it now or did her muscles burn from lactic acid build up?

I have no idea how many times a day she did this. Going down the ramp you would think would be easier. However it first required her to get off her wheelchair, on to the bitumen and lift her wheel chair over the gutter and get back on and gently control the wheel chair going over the rise and the speed down the ramp and line her wheels up with the grooves that were cut in the bar at the bottom of them ramp to stop or arrest runaway trolleys. She never complained. She was not a victim, she was living her life. Once she told us of sailing her boat on her own (or single handed as they say) from Sydney to Brisbane. Our boat is potentially a bit big for single handed sailing. And if Martin is injured again we have opinions.

Our friends, Jo and Tim (of similar ages to us with Tim older than Jo) intend to sell their sailboat (a 52’ Ketch) and buy a cruiser. They want to sell before they find the upkeep and work required more daunting than is practical.

Even though they prefer sailing to motor cruising they would rather live on the water than on land. So, they have started looking for a beautiful displacement boat to call home.

And then we have met others who have opted for the canal boats of Europe and the United Kingdom. This is something We would love to do. I talk to anybody I meet who has had experience with canal boats. I think I am in love with the pace of life on a canal boat.

A canal boat, why not.
Why not?

A recent conversation brought this home to me: “You have to totally learn to relax. Especially if you are travelling in peak season. You may have to wait for hours to get through the locks. You have to wait for the tides. And so you are stopped in the most beautiful countryside, in little villages, hamlets and you can either enjoy the beauty, read a book, listen to music etc because in those moments you cannot change the tide or jump queue. All you can do is be in the moment.” I first fell in love with this idea while reading Richard Branson’s autobiography (the first one). I would love to explore the UK and Europe in a canal boat once we are done sailing. But first we want to bounce around New Zealand and linger there for a while.

And finally, what if one day we are no longer able to
manage a motorboat (or canal boat)?

We draw our inspiration from a couple at Gold Coast City Marina. Let me tell you their story.

PJ and Jane: We had not seen the them for a few weeks. They have a house as well as a lovely motor cruiser. However, we had heard that PJ was unwell. He is 88 and they have had their berth at the Marina for twenty years. They spend a lot of time, there on their boat.

Anyway, we recently learnt that PJ has had a couple of mini strokes. In learning this, one cannot help but have a fleeting thought about our own mortality. It was with great joy we saw he and Jane back on their boat last week. Their visit was meant to be just to pick up a few things. However, they stayed the night. Jane commented on the fact that they will be wearing the same clothes the next day. They are always beautifully dressed.

They do not do the scruffy unkept look that many boaties gravitate towards (Including Martin who has clothes I need to throw away).

Notwithstanding, the next day Jane went home and grabbed them a change of clothes for one more night – they stayed two more. I think they left the same day we slipped our lines to go away for a long weekend. FYI our longest trip yet. Friday to Monday.

We spent time with PJ before we left. He still has his wicked sense of humour. The outcome of his strokes has drained his energy and physical capability. However, his wit is still as sharp as ever. They have planned to do a 6-day cruise this week. This cruise is with a Flotilla of boats and theirs was to be the lead boat. So, what have they decided to do? They have organised a skipper. This is the most sensible thing I have heard in a very long time. They will enjoy their cruise even more.

So my friends.

Have we wondered about what if? Yes, we have tried. But more importantly we prefer to look at the why not?

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Transitions, transitions, transitions… It is official, our transition from the house is complete. We handed the keys back on Saturday 11 July. The last 6 months has felt like a time warp and to borrow from The Hit Crew; “and nothing can ever be the same”.

What if…? I get back to this question later?

While it has been 5 days since we handed the keys back, we have now been sleeping and eating on the boat for two weeks and three days. This transition from a perfectly normal and beautifully set up home to a small boat could either be described as an over-abundance of courage or straight, outright foolishness. Or both, I hear you say…

While Martin Lloyd and I both have a sense of adventure there was always a risk that we were romanticising the idea of living on a boat. After all, for our honeymoon we went sailing. That was five and half years ago. Martin would occasionally ask me somewhat rhetorically,

“are we romanticising the whole adventure?”

Well it is too late now… And in fairness I was the one that was always excited… I have said so many times that I could not wait:

~ to be on the boat (tick).
~ end the trips back to the house (tick).

I can’t wait to go sailing… Planned for Saturday… Woohoo – happy dance…

Finally you say. I can feel your joy for us bounce through on-line waves. Don’t get too excited, we are not heading off on our big voyage. It will be a day sail as we want to test our new staysail. And just for fun we want to… uh no, we need to practice docking again. If you missed the dramas of our last attempt to dock the 18 tonnes of uncooperative Saboteur (the bouncing off other boats) and if you want a good laugh at our expense, grab a cuppa, jump in and follow this link. Part of our transition process is after all, learning new skills. Even if they scare the beegeebers out of us.

Transitions bring up many and often mixed emotions. Somewhere during a coffee break in the blur and time warp of the final days of packing, Bill Fuller (Marty’s friend and former band mate from 50 years ago) asked,

“What’s it like on the boat now that you are finally on the boat?”

To which Martin replied, “I am feeling excited or is it panic? I’m not sure. How do you tell the difference?”

Bill replied, “Don’t bother, just sit back and enjoy it”.

To which we all laughed…

And so our transition, while it has had many tangible components to it, it is the unspoken or deeply personal components that makes this change interesting, emotional and even complex.

I am finding my awareness of the transition moments tends to come with a sigh of relief. Some expected, some not so.

Zac exploring. He is looking out of the cockpit with the moon in the back ground.

Probably the first significant transition moment for me was seeing Zac (our cat) explore and settle into the boat. I could feel my face break out into the hugest grin as he placed his paws on the edge of the cockpit and looked out. Not out of fear (certainly cautious) but out of curiosity. And I felt myself sigh with relief. We had spoken with the vet who had provided us with a stash of anti-anxiety tablets, which we only ended up using on the day we moved.

~

The second transition moment, in a way, had nothing and everything to do with living on the boat. It is symbolic of life changes. One of the reasons we purchased our first boat together was that Martin had had a serious race-bike accident that nearly killed him, resulting in a manic period in our lives starting with 3 hospitals in three days and 3 months in a wheelchair. It appeared as if he would not race again.

For someone that viewed himself as racer-boy, to be unable to race which he has done all his life has been difficult. Even more so when he had no choice but to retire from racing. In time, he recovered from all his injuries and gained pretty much full range in his knee, and so we bought our boat. In Martin’s mind he could now transition from being racer-boy to Captain Marty. Sailing has also been a serious passion of his. We loved our old boat but within 18 months we sold her and bought Saboteur.

Back to the track.

Marty and co in the pits at the race track

Martin was planning to do a track day with a mate. The last hoorah so to speak and had asked his mechanic to put new tyres on the bike and give it a service. His mechanic took a photo of Martin’s race bike and posted it online. Martin’s mates recognised it and started asking questions; “Is Marty back racing?” to which he shared that he is just doing a track day and then he received many beautiful comments from guys he raced with all over Australia. Some of the local guys (Ben LoweBrad LesueurKurt GraingerBarry Grainger booked in to ride with Marty on the track day) and the interstate guys (David James, Birdsey (Aka William Birdsey) and others) expressed their wish to be on the track with him once again. It was beautiful and brought tears to my eyes.

Marty, Kurk, Ben and Brad taking the corner 2 at Morgan Park.

You really don’t want your last memory of your last race to be being taken away in an ambulance.

A massive thank you to the paramedics and all medical staff who cared for him.

As well as Andrew Smart and his Ricondi Motorcycle Apparel for the airbag fitted leathers that help save his life.

He had not returned to the track (that track or any other track for that matter in 2 1/2 years). And so it was with great trepidation for me and a mixture of excitement and fear for Martin that we went back to the “scene of the crime”.

I was focused on minimising the voice in my head…

What if… he falls,
~ breaks a leg (I will put a bed in the shed and he can wheel himself to the amenities block! And I told him that!)
~ breaks his collarbone again (the Surgeon has told him he can not reconstruct it again. He has broken one collarbone four times and the other twice!)
~ and it delays our plans to sail…

I will be forever grateful that there were no falls and no broken bones.

I will be forever grateful to his friends that came and the conversations, stories and comradeship between great mates.

And then afterwards, the dialogue they shared in Messenger about how happy they were to be able to be on the track with him again, and what it meant to them.

Thank you to Ben, Kurt, Brad and Barry…

I am forever grateful.

And so Martin transitions from racer-boy to Captain Marty and he can turn his focus to new skills. If only Saboteur turned as easily as his race bike.

~

Another transition moment was Martin having a discussion with his boss and telling him we are not running away anytime soon and that he will give him three months’ notice. That feels right.

~

And finally for me, an unexpected transition moment has been falling in love with writing.

Over the past 11 months there have been almost 45 posts to our blog www.whatareyouwaitingfor.guru, and I have fallen in love with writing.

What was my worst nightmare at school (writing) is now my number 1 passion.

I get cranky when I don’t have time to write.

It has taken over my passion for painting. I have 3 unfinished paintings in the shed that I would like to finish before we set sail. Maybe I will, and maybe I won’t. I have a painting in a girlfriend’s studio that I will finish. Just to hang out with her again in her studio will be wonderful.

And so it is with Transitions, Time Warps and the occasional U-Turns,
we need to know what you are moving away from and
what you are moving towards.

In our case, it is not just a house to a boat, it is an identify shift as Marty transitions from racer-boy to sailor-boy, and I, corporate girl to sailor-girl.

And more than anything else, I am loving being a writer.

And there is still one unanswered question.

What if we can’t live together in a small space?

Will we still like each other…

#Ilovesailing #Whatareyouwaitingfor #liveyourlife #TandMadventures #ZacAdventures #Liveaboard #Liveaboardwithanimals #Transitions

Note: I originally published this article Facebook on last Saturday ( 28 June) Moving has kept us occupied. It is nice to be able to catch up on a few things.

I held my breath so many times yesterday… almost too scared to believe that we had a boat with a working motor and sails and that we could move the boat without it being towed…

We had become conditioned to anticipate what could go wrong…. Trying not to let this negative anticipation stifle the positive anticipation for our plans, or at worst strangle our enthusiasm for our goals.

We arrived at East Coast Marina (Manly) at around 10am with the view to unload the car, do minimal organising and head out as soon as possible. Seriously aiming for 11.30 departure.

We were confident after checking everything yesterday that everything, seriously everything was working. Or so we thought!

We took two loaded trolleys to the boat, unloaded our numerous bags on the deck and Martin heads back to the car for the next load. I head downstairs to unload. All good. I plug in my iPad. It is not charging, yet other things are working, this does not make sense as we are still on shore power. Not good.

Martin gets back and I share my discovery and collectively we try and work out why. This is not good. We need to be able to charge our mobiles. Especially given that our chart plotter has not arrived and we need the iPhones for navigating unfamiliar passages.

Breathe, breathe and breathe… Right now, you can understand why anticipation can be overrated.

We phone the electrician. No answer. Shite. I phone the pet sitter to see if he can do another night. Phew, he can. I phone a friend who was coming down to say goodbye and cast us off. 

And then, the electrician arrived. 

Note: the advantage of using the local marina electrician is he could just be on the boat next door. He wasn’t, but he was somewhere nearby. He immediately identified the problem. 

No problem at all… really… had to be something obvious (both do a mental forehead slap and laugh and sign of relief all at the same time). Depending on what source the power was coming from determined which master switch had to be on. In our defence only one of the two master switches is labelled Master… helpful… 

Anticipation is worth it we are filling departing Manly
Departing Manly

Awesome, our energy picks up. Martin announces we are leaving in 30. This meant departure was at 1pm. We set about getting organised. We had hoped to leave by 11.30am, no later then midday to get to our planned anchorage for the night. Best laid plans… 

We are on our way!

Our friend turns up. It was brilliant to talk though the options of turning Saboteur’s 18 tonnes and getting underway. It is brilliant to have an extra set of experienced hands help us cast off. He also took this awesome photo as we head out. And so our journey begins… We had 2.9 hours on the new motor and had a perfect afternoon of motoring. It was not good sailing as we were nose into the wind and already 90 minutes later than planned. We wanted to reach our anchorage before sunset which was just on 5pm. We were able to do a good 6 knots and arrived exactly as originally planned and we were pleased with that. All went well. As we passed Peel Island we reminisced about anchoring there last year and the adventures that followed when our anchored started slipping in the middle of the night.

We were pleased to be trying a new and recommended anchorage.

Day 1 success!

Enjoying a glass of red at sunset, Cheers
Anchor secured, cheers!

And so we anchored in time to watch the sunset. With the anticipation of hearing the crack of the seal of the red wine bottle as it releases, followed perfectly by a gurgle as the wine merrily bounces from the bottle to our gorgeous wine glasses and we feel our bodies relax as we take that first sip. It is as if the setting sun picked up all the challenges of the day and carried them away. 

In time, our attention turns to firing up the BBQ and cooking the vegies. Our unfamiliarity of our galley provides some entertainment and we eventually work out one gas bottle is empty and turn on the full one – and we are away.

Sunset
Sunset at Lamb Island

We already had the steak out raising to room temperature. The anticipation of the sizzle on the BBQ did not disappoint. We set the anchor alarm and sat back and read. Martin slid his wine glass over to me. He is tired, trading wine for chocolate and has a power nap.

We head to the galley, do the dishes and tidy a little of our unpacked craziness and head to bed.

We collapse in the quietness, that is shattered with Martin hitting his head just above the bed. “#### I am sick of hitting my head”. There are only a few places where he can hit his head and somehow I anticipate one or two repeat performances. His head barley touches the pillow and he is asleep. And with that it is time for me to go to sleep. 

Our journey has really begun. The anticipation has all been worth it.

#ilovesailing #whatareyouwaitingfor #liveyourlife #TandMAdventures

The power of intention… Be careful what you ask for because you just might get it. A fortnight ago, I concluded my post with … I feel like I can relax a little more and enjoy the beauty and pleasure of everyday mundane things.

I’m pleased to report I am improving at relaxing. But I can’t take all the credit. I believe some of the success lies with luck, some is in sound decision-making (reducing pressure and in turn stress) and some is managing the pressure I put on myself and my attitude towards the long list of things that still need to be done. And Martin’s foot. More on that later.

Proud to show our diesel engine maintenance course certificates
Our diesel engine maintenance course certificates

Luck – a 4 day Easter weekend followed a fortnight later with the 3 day Labour day weekend. Happy dance – extra time.

Sound decision-making – two decisions have reduced our stress:

  • taking a shed at the marina reducing the pressure to sell everything 
  • deciding to pay for a removalist to move our remaining possession (and there are still a few) 

Managing my attitude towards my to do list. This is hard. But by simply reprioritising what’s important to me first, has made the world of difference. Including my exercise.

I am doing my core strength work and my back is loving it. No more pain killers because I am curled over the keyboard for hours on end. 

The morning walk with the dogs had fallen by the wayside. It was like my keyboard had this magical power softly calling my name the moment I awoke. Not for my writing but straight into work. Yeh I know… I need to cut that s*** out, right?

And so, I am loving the mundane and catching up on things.

One task that has given me an immense level of satisfaction has been writing a couple of thank you cards. I have a card box where I keep a few cards handy, just in case I need one. 

Some of the cards are from art-galleries we have visited over the years. Some from a shy homeless guy in Melbourne who draws all the time. He has his drawings printed and sells them on the street corner. And in days gone by I used to make and sell my own cards. 

It was wonderful to pull this box out and select the cards to impart my messages. In the end I selected handmade cards the exterior made from recycled paper. This paper while in pulp form had multi coloured stars sprinkled randomly through the pulp mix. The inside of the card was a lovely linen paper. The smoothness of this texture was a beautiful contrast to the recycled paper and so beautiful to write on. 

Hand made letters
Hand-made cards

I had been planning to write four thank you cards to two different hospitals (Doctors and staff) and my local doctor for the amazing work they have done either saving Martin or my goddaughter’s lives. I was so happy to have been able to this. My stepbrother who is a doctor and a surgeon, suggested it after explaining the challenges of my Martin’s surgery.  I cannot tell you how good it felt to write my gratitude. We also enjoyed the walk to the mailbox to post them. I was grateful to still have a couple of stamps kicking-in around in the box. A quick online search confirmed current postage fee. All good.

And now some space to give you more updates… And it is all good news…
  • Martin and I received our certificates for completing our diesel engine maintenance course… Woohoo!!!
  • Our new engine has arrived and installation is likely to be this week. I am hoping it is Friday as I would be able to watch it. 
  • Doctors advised that they have successful removed all of the skin-cancer from the back of Martin’s hand. 

The Doctors also found and removed another skin cancer from the top of Martin’s foot. This happened on Friday and we should get the results on Wednesday. Fingers crossed for the same results as the last. 

Our cute little companions
Our companions

This weekend it is truly doing nothing for Martin as he has to keep his foot up for 48 hours. And be gentle with it moving forward not to pull the stitches. So, it is a Netflix feast and reading weekend. And for me it is punctate with nursing duties for cups of tea and biscuits etc. I gladly do it to keep Martin off his feet and I’m pleased to report no cups of tea were left on the bench (undelivered) as I get distracted with something else…

I did forget to turn the kettle on twice. Ha ha.

How it all began

If you don’t like the soppy stuff, you may wish to skip this post. If on the other hand you would like a cool pick up line, keep reading.

Racer boy (Marty) meets corporate girl (me, Tessa)… on a plane.

It is pretty cool right. That’s right we meet on flight QF540 departing 5pm from Sydney to Brisbane on 18 October 2013. Corporate girl was meant to be on a later flight. Arriving at the airport early with no carry-on luggage this time some-how I got the last seat on the flight to go home. That never happens on a Friday night… Amazing, right. It was meant to happen.

Over the next 80 minutes we discussed Terry Pratchett, the author of the book Marty was trying to read and had to put down because he felt I was watching him. And I was. I was enjoying his energy as he read the book. At that stage I had not been introduced to Terry Pratchett. That was soon to change. We talked about many things, art, designers, industrial design, bringing manufacturing back into Australia (Pretty cool right), environmentally friendly packaging and designers and we both learnt we shared the same designer as our favourite being Phillip Starke… For me I had not talked, design, industrial design and many of the topics we traversed in many years. It was an amazing conversation.

As the pilot announced the plane had started to descend, Marty asked me if I had room in my life for one more friend. That was a pretty cool line. 

He told me later by the time the plane landed knew he was in love. I got off the plane and knew I was in serious trouble…

Was I ready for another relationship? Well, ready or not… 

I fell in love with Marty because he lives his life. He is active, he does things, has energy and he will to give things a go. When we meet, he was racing Formula 1 Superbikes across Australia. He has been a team rider and as well as riding for himself. Because he loves it. I thought that is pretty cool. Some would say crazy. Both are true… 

As I said, I feel in love with Marty because he lives his life. So, boy meet girl and falls in love. 18 months later we get married. I was 48 years young and Marty was 63 young when we married… Both starting again to build our financial security having been divorced before. It is an interesting space to navigate. 

All along, what I have loved is Marty passion for living life. Our conversation regularly turns to retirement, semi-retirement what does that look like for the two of us. Especially, given the age gap between us. We had talked about when to retire, where to retire and sailing when we retired. Our thoughts in the early days were to own a batch (beachside shack) in NZ and a sail-boat. And then our thoughts started shifting… 

We had been talking about “grey-nomading” on the water when we retire.
Our new home, A Tayanna 47

And have asked ourselves, why wait to go live-aboard. Were we ready, could we live on that small a space (you should see the size of the house we are in now), what would we do with our possessions, cars, bikes (yes there are a few of those) and many more questions? After a while our questions fell away and we can’t think of one good reason to wait…

In fact, we started thinking of quiet a few reasons to do so sooner rather than later. We have had close friends, have strokes, heart attacks, knee problems, hip problems, back problems and others while not limited physically, had a more sedentary mindset. Maybe we are in denial of our age. Maybe we are lucky not to be limited by our bodies. Whatever the reasons we are jumping into our adventure. We bought our live-aboard yacht. We took possession of her on 10 October 2019. So, next year some time we will move on-board. And yes, we will be moving with the dogs and the cat. Yikes, I hear you cry. I am sure there will be a few stories to follow…

On this blog will share our journey of downsizing, going live-aboard and practicing the art of retirement. Oh, and off course… Sailing.

On a final and important note, when Marty was racing he often get asked, “Aren’t you getting too old for that?” To which he usually replies, “Yeh, you’re are right, I should wait until I am a little younger.” 

And hence our philosophy is; 

What are you waiting for…
Live your life

#Ilovesailing #TandM #Whatareyouwaitingfor #liveyourlife

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